Sounds like you should join DFWMAS! We have a lot of fun, tons of great people with SO much knowledge, and we even have monthly meetings where you can meet other people in the hobby and learn good stuff. In fact, our next meeting (July) is next Wednesday, July 10. I'm co-presenting on (of all things) emergency preparedness for your tank. You can come and see what it's like and see if you'd like to join. You can learn more about it here:
http://www.dfwmas.org/Forums/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=111191
As for filter media, I use a filter sock at the intake of my return pump. I'd be happy to hook you up, but I just changed the sock yesterday and the old one is being cleaned. What size system do you have? That will help others determine your needs and what they might be able to offer you. Also if you can tell us what exactly it was you tossed you may find someone with exactly the same thing to offer you! The more you tell us the better we can help you out.
Again, hope everything works out with your tank. Keep us informed!

Keith