Flow through the sump, not really, though that is also your flow rate from/to the tank so not too fast. The general rule of thumb, which is varied since I like a bit more than that, is 3 or 5 times the tank size. That limits the amount flowing into the sump the same.
Flow into the fuge, depending on size, should be relatively slow. Enough to keep it moving and not stagnant etc... but not enough to where you are pushing stuff out of the fuge into the sump. The slower flow allows better reduction (or more efficient) of nitrates into the macros etc.
For the skimmer, it depends on the type of skimmer. Most, not all, have an ideal flow rate into the chamber. To maximize your skimmer efficiency, you should have an idea of what your skimmer can handle per hour and only put that into the chamber, or slightly higher.
If you follow the 3 to 5 times, or up to 7 like I run then all of that should take care of itself, except the fuge amount which I cut in half or more.