First of all, you've got 1" bulkheads in the tank draining into 3/4" plumbing of the sump. So a restriction already is in place to reduce the water & air ratio into a quiet drain effect. (Remember it will take 14 days for it to reach maximum efficiency noise-wise.) If you are always battling the water level in the overflow, it's exactly because of the ball valves on the drains. This water line should never wander - it should be rock solid. If it is moving, either the drains are submerged too much into the sump (which can't happen with this sump because I installed the fittings to the proper heights), or the Durso holes are the wrong size. 3/16" is the correct hole size.
You will want 75% of the water to drain into the skimmer section, 25% to the refugium. By closing off part of the flow to the refugium with the ball valve, the backpressure will probably increase how much drains into the skimmer zone to be just about right.
The orange handled ball valves (John Fischer, I think?) available from Savko.com are amazing, and the only kind I use. They cost more, but always turn easily.